If you are using a many to many association with navigability set to one side, indeed the way you reference to objects is different. If you set navigability to both, you can use a reference set selector or input reference set selector to display and add (you need to set/generate a select page) records from the associated entity to work the same way from either side.
For more information you can take a look at these two documentation sections
https://docs.mendix.com/refguide9/reference-set-selector/
https://docs.mendix.com/refguide9/input-reference-set-selector/
Hope this helps